Why some women are more prone to love at first sight

Most women believe in finding Prince Charming and true love, but some of them more strongly than others. Our friends at Marie France Asia give us the low-down on why some of us are always hoping to meet our happy ending right around the next corner.

Say love at first sight, and we immediately think of the idealistic girl crazy about sentimental movies, or the eternal love seeker. We know some fairy tale love believers who are almost always disappointed with what reality brings. They have expectations that are too high and do not bear the slightest setback. Sometimes, the love or ‘crush’ they develop is not even mutual. Others, who are more mature and sensible, recognize the brevity of a crush and accept it as something that spice-up their daily life.

According to psychoanalyst Juliette Allais, “Love at first sight can happen to everybody, whether it is the hopeless romantic or the control freak who will fall in love all the more for its novelty.” Nevertheless, it can also run in the family, as if it is something that could be passed from mother to daughter like Granny’s jewellery. “It is sometimes a family trait. Our parents will have maintained the myth of the first magical meeting, the perfect love, and this is what love at first sight suggests,” states the psycho-genealogist.

We find comfort in a fairy tale universe. For the psychiatrist Philippe Brenot, there is no doubt, that we are taken by the sheer romance of Cinderella, who waited for her prince and fell in love immediately: “Love brings us to a magical thought level. Suddenly, we are no longer the masters of our fate, but a character of an already written scenario.” There is magic in the air or, at least, we want to believe in it. We choose to believe in it.